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Being busy isn’t a competition

July 3, 2018

I felt strange this morning.

It’s a Saturday, and every evening this week i’ve had something on.

I volunteer at a youth drama group and this week it’s been show week. It’s super fun styling 70 kids with ridiculous quiffs and 60s themed hair, but it doesn’t half take it out of me.

Going straight from work to the show, and getting home past nine each night has pretty much exhausted me.

I know, soz grandma.

And to add to that, work has been really full on. I’m loving the way things are going at the moment, but it’s intense and there really hasn’t been a moment this week to stop and collect my thoughts.

So this morning when my boyfriend left the flat to go out for the day I felt really odd.

Now don’t get me wrong, sometimes I love my own company.

There’s nothing better than knowing you have a Friday night to yourself with absolutely no plans but to get yourself a nice glass of wine, cook some pasta, and stick a crime drama on. BLISS.

But this morning felt odd.

This week has been so busy and there’s barely been a moment i’ve been alone.

It felt almost as if I didn’t know what to do with myself. I had the immediate urge to try and make some last minute plans.

Bearing in mind I actually have to start getting ready in an hour to go back out, there isn’t even that much time for me to do anything.

But it felt like I just couldn’t switch off.

Should I clean the flat?

Should I go for a walk?

Should I reply to some emails?

The free time was almost scary to me.

I’ve been thinking a lot recently about being busy.

Sometimes I think being busy is glamourised. It’s almost as if it’s a competition to see who can have the most plans and the least spare time. I know especially in the working environment there can be a detrimental culture of constantly feeling the need to express how busy you are.

I don’t know whether this is something to do with keeping up appearances and ensuring that people are aware of your work load, but I personally think it’s seriously unhealthy.

Why should we have to prove how busy we are? Does that mean the people not talking about it aren’t busy? Or are they simply getting on with the tasks at hand?

I believe it’s the latter.

But it’s the same in our personal lives.

As I scroll through Instagram and read some of the captions at the end of the day or week, I notice how many people talk about how busy they’ve been.

It’s not necessarily a bad thing but I wonder whether we sometimes feel the need to always be seen as busy.

And i’m absolutely guilty of it myself. I love telling my followers what i’ve been up to and if i’ve had a lot on my plate, i’ll talk about it.

The problem I feel with always being busy is exactly what i’ve felt this morning.

If we’re constantly on the go how will we ever learn to switch off and fully relax?

Honestly, since starting my blog i’ve found it even harder to switch off.

As others of you who work full time i’m sure will know, when you get home after work there’s a constant struggle between wanting to do more of what you’re passionate about, working on your blog, or giving yourself time out.

At the weekends I promise myself I will do nothing, but I guarantee I can’t go a day without snapping something for Instagram.

I wonder as well whether this constant need to express our business is detrimental to others.

If influencers, bloggers, celebs, whoever it may be are constantly expressing how busy they are, how does that look to the younger generation?

Are you failing if you’re not busy? Are you uncool if you don’t run yourself into the ground?

What I think is really important is scheduling in time to relax. Even if it’s just one hour a day.

So that’s what i’ve done.

Tomorrow morning (Sunday) i’m going to get up early, clean the flat with Chris, and then spend the day in the ultimate chill out zone.

I’m talking binge watching a series, cooking some delicious dinner, lighting candles, having snacks, and plenty of cups of tea.

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Just total relaxation.

What do you think about being busy? Do you find it hard to relax?

I’d love to hear how you switch off!

Esther xo



6 responses to “Being busy isn’t a competition”

  1. This is such an important and beautifully written post- thank you so much for sharing. I agree and actually wrote a similar post recently because I couldn’t bare to see so many people (bloggers in particular) stress themselves out because they forget to step away from their work for a while.

    Sending you good vibes!

    Nati x | | @NAfterCoffee

    • estherwyse says:

      Ah that’s such a lovely comment – thank you! I’m so glad it’s not just me who feels this way. I’ll head over and read yours now! x

  2. Nital says:

    I love this post. I have a lot on at the moment as in house hunting, job hunting as well as some other things and being a carer to a parent as well as other things. That being said when I do have free time I feel Iike I should be productive and feel like I’m wasting time if I binge watch TV or anything like that. I am trying to get better with this. Even since childhood TV was seen as a waste of time, not sure if thats the Indian culture or just our household. In my head “time should always ben used to better your life situation, learn something, improve yourself, educate yourself, look after the household, anything to progress and do and be better etc” this is so far ingrained in my head I do struggle when I occasionally binge watch TV. This is something I have always had though, nothing to do with social media. Even when I go away for a spa weekend, I do as many classes and activites as I can. I am trying to relax and watch TV etc without the guilty feeling but I struggle as there so much I need to get on with.

    If you get a chance please let me know your thought on my Busy as a competition post here

    • estherwyse says:

      Thank you for leaving such a thoughtful comment – I completely agree. If ever i’m watching TV or just doing nothing I can’t help but feel I should be doing something productive. Sounds like you’ve got a lot on – make sure you look after yourself! I’ll go and read yours now 🙂 xx

  3. Loved this post. I always feel like I must do something and when I don’t have anything to do I feel guilty.

    Veronica |

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