Whilst writing my 2020 goals up in my latest post, various words floated around in my head. Words I felt described or summarised 2019. It would be very easy for me to use words such as disastrous, traumatic, excruciating etc etc etc, but that’s my inner drama queen coming out.
In actual fact I recognised 2019 as a year of incredible learning, difficult growth, repairing, and flourishing. Which I actually think is a pretty fab set of words to come out of the year with. It was a real journey from extreme pain to brilliant happiness which is why they vary so much.
This year, I’ve decided to set a word of the year at the beginning of the year. As I mentioned in my goals post, I know the whole ‘new year new goals’ thing isn’t everyone’s cuppa tea, but I personally love and embrace the chance to start afresh and go to town on new goals.
And it’s not that I want to limit all of my thoughts, activities, and plans on this one word for the whole year, but when I look at the goals I’ve set myself for 2020, I see a theme shining through.
Traveling on my own, reading more, taking my social content in a new direction, practicing self-care, pretty much all of my 2020 goals allow me to explore and develop my independence. And I’m SO excited about it.
One learning I’ve taken from 2019, and something I’d never known about myself is how much I love my independence and actually spending time on my own. I’ve always been a ‘people person’, I adore spending time with others and I really thrive when I’m around friends and family. But being thrust into a situation where I no longer shared my life with someone else meant I was spending a lot more of my time alone.
The more I stared to enjoy those moments of alone time, the more I started to look forward to them and actually plan more of them. I’d take myself to the cinema, go for coffee alone, or plan a night in to myself.
It really did surprise me just how much I cherished those moments. If I think back to 16 year old me, I think she’d cackle right in my face if I told her I’d be taking myself for coffee.
For 2020 I decided to set myself the challenge of travelling alone, something I know I’ll really enjoy, but terrifies me just a little bit…So keep an eye on my Instagram to see where I’m heading to next!
Who knows, at the end of 2020 I may well look back and think wow, that really wasn’t my word of the year. A huge amount can change in 365 days and I’m ready to embrace anything and everything that comes along.
For now, I’m off to make myself a cuppa tea. How INDEPENDENT I am…!
Do you have a word of the year? I’d love to know!